Being a teenager and young adult, having a great self-image is something that not everyone has. Throughout high school and the beginning of college, trying to improve the way I viewed myself was a serious struggle. Becoming more confident is a process, and I wouldn’t say I’m 100% there yet, but I have been working to get there, and I wanted to share some tips and tricks that I’ve learned throughout the way!
1. Fake it ’til you make it
Now, I know this is a seriously overdone phrase and something that most people don’t want to hear, but it’s so true! The more you say something to yourself, the more you’re going to believe it. When you look at yourself in the mirror and only focus on the negative aspects of what you’re seeing, your mindset is going to stay negative. Start each day by complimenting yourself! Say things like “I look really nice today” or “I am smart and am going to do well on my exam today.” By feeding yourself with good thoughts, you’ll slowly start to believe more of the good and less of the bad.
2. Stop searching for validation in others
Confident people don’t care what others think about them because they’re so, well, confident! Not liking yourself because a certain boy isn’t interested or your last selfie didn’t get enough likes is doing you nothing but harm. You have to search only for validation within yourself. The only person that needs to like you is you.
3. Surround yourself with confident people
Being around other confident people will cause them to rub off on you. Create your uber confident girl squad, and you’ll be feeling great about yourself soon enough!
4. Stop comparing yourself
This is one of the things that’s the hardest to stop doing, but once you do you’ll feel so much better. Spending your time thinking about how someone has higher grades than you, or how someone is prettier than you will not get you anywhere. Try your hardest to break unhealthy habits like this and you’ll begin to realize that living life is not a competition, and just because someone has something you don’t, you are not any less of a person.
5. Focus on how far you’ve come. not har far you are from where you want to be
Just because you don’t 100% love yourself now doesn’t mean that you never will. Self-love doesn’t happen overnight and recognizing that is so important. If you’ve learned to hate just one less thing about yourself, celebrate that victory! Appreciating the small things that you overcome throughout the journey will make it so much better!
Teaching yourself to stop thinking so negatively about yourself can be difficult. But if you put forth an effort to improve your self-image, and help others to do the same, it won’t be as bad!