FOMO. If you don’t know what it means, you definitely will understand the concept. FOMO stands for “fear of missing out.” We definitely have all experienced it at some point in our lives.
Social media plays a large role in instilling FOMO. Imagine this: You’re scrolling through social media, maybe checking Instagram or looking at people’s Snapchat stories. Then you see something and you feel your heart sink all the way into your stomach. Your friends are somewhere. Without you. Sound familiar? It’s quite likely you’ve experienced something similar to this scenario. And it probably sucked.
But how do you control it? I’m not going to lie to you, it’s hard. Seeing people out having fun doing things you weren’t invited to do can make you feel pretty shitty. It’s not fun. But, you don’t have to let this dark feeling overpower you.
You first just have to take a step back from the situation and think. You’ve done things without some of our friends, right? You most likely didn’t have ill intentions when you did that, and I’m sure your friends didn’t either. Once you realize this, you’ll already be on your way to feeling better.
Here are just a few tips to help when you start feeling FOMO creeping up on you:
Take a social media break
If seeing pictures of your friends doing fun things really bothers you that much, maybe taking a break can be good for you. You can disconnect and focus only on those around you and not on those who are out doing other things.
Think about the activity
A big reason you didn’t get the invite is simply that they’re doing something you don’t enjoy, not because they don’t like you or don’t want to spend time with you.
Focus on making yourself happy
FOMO happens to a lot of people mainly because you already feel unhappy or insecure. This is a much different problem than your friends hanging out without you. Instead of focusing on the negative situation, try to focus on yourself and what does make you happy. Grab lunch with a friend you haven’t seen in a while, watch a movie at home with your mom, call someone. Soon after, you’ll realize you forgot all about what was making you upset in the first place and you can move on.
FOMO is not fun. But when you realize that you can overcome it and move on, you’ll feel infinitely better. When you realize that everyone isn’t out to get you and that your friends do still like you, things will be better and you can be happier. And as always, the contact page on here is always open for your questions and I will happily send advice!