Going away to college was scary, especially since I entered this new place with such poor self esteem, both about my looks and mind. During my short time at school so far, I have noticed that I’ve become much more confident in myself and it’s been great. So, here are 5 ways that college has helped me gain some confidence!
1. Going to the gym regularly
Before I went away to school, I barely worked out on my own accord. I played tennis and danced, which were my only two forms of exercise. Now that I have a “free” gym membership, I try to go at least two times a week. Working out has been a great way for me to de-stress, which has helped me feel better about my life overall. I feel healthier and happier when I leave, knowing I spent my time doing something good for me instead of wasting it away on something pointless.
2. Realizing no one cares
Once I got to school I realized that honestly, no one cares about you. High school is filled with judgement and competition (especially senior year) and going to college is completely different. No one cares what you’re doing, and you don’t care what anyone else is doing. I don’t constantly compare myself and my life to those around me, and I now focus on improving myself for the point of feeling good, not to be better or as good as someone else.
3. Keeping a journal
I started keeping a journal in October of my senior year, but I didn’t write in it as often as I do now. Almost every night I sit down and write about my day, my opinions, and really anything that’s on my mind. For me, keeping a journal is a great outlet to be completely open with myself about how I feel about certain things, helping me see different situations in a new light and just feel better.
4. Leaving the dorm with no makeup on
I used to never be caught leaving my house without at least some form of makeup on. But now I can go without makeup and still feel great. This started as pure laziness, to be perfectly honest. Having 8ams, I just didn’t want to bother with makeup. Going outside with a completely bare face was scary at first, since I never used to let people see me like that, but referring back to #2, no one cares! Getting used to myself with no makeup has made me feel much better about myself, and while I still love makeup I have worn it less since I no longer see it as a necessity.
5. Studying what I want to
Lastly, being able to take classes that I choose has been so great. I’m not in classes that I find uninteresting and do poorly in, which has been extremely beneficial. Now that I’m taking classes I want to be in and enjoy, I’m more motivated to study and put in extra effort. I’ve become more confident in my work and in my time management skills. Earning good grades from such hard work has been very rewarding to me, and has made me much more confident in my academic abilities.
The past few months has been a whirlwind of self discovery and improvement. I’m so thankful for the people around me who have inspired me to work my hardest at both the academic and social levels. How have you gained self confidence in the past year?